• exasperation@lemm.ee
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    4 days ago

    (I must say I disagree completely with that guy sharing messages from his girlfriend- that piece is very weird and a total breach of trust)

    My impression from the original post was that kind of stuff was what drove most of the fallout. Leaked off color memes aren’t going to ruin people’s relationships, but leaked shit talk or breaches of someone else’s privacy will.

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      4 days ago

      but leaked shit talk or breaches of someone else’s privacy will.

      shit talk and leaking messages is pretty bad, but that’s really common these days unfortunately. I wonder how frequently texts like that are shared between female group chats. Depends on the person, and the group, but they are just more connected.

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        3 days ago

        Speaking ill of someone not present to defend themselves is commonly in bad tastes, imo. Commonality of occurrence certainly doesn’t make it any less wrongful. I don’t think it’s a gender specific issue based on the story being about guys doing this.

        • KillingTimeItself@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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          2 days ago

          i’m not saying it is, but from what i understand women tend to have a more cohesive social group, and tend to talk about things between them a lot more, so it would reason that there is a larger chance of stuff like this breaking out into that conversation.

          Men just don’t really talk about their personal lives all that much. And when they do it’s usually shitposting.

          Speaking ill of someone not present to defend themselves is commonly in bad tastes, imo.

          to be clear, i would generally agree with this, unless it’s understand to be venting/not seriously considered. It might be weird in the latter half, but it’s a lot less rude if it’s an inside joke specifically among a group of people.

          I don’t think it’s a gender specific issue based on the story being about guys doing this.

          and to be fair, if we’re going full gender difference analysis, i think guys are a lot more likely to have a group chat like this, than women, so there’s that.